CNC Millocracy Server Cultural and Play expectations
The following are some cultural expectations regarding play on the server. These aren’t hard and fast rules that we enforce with moderation punishments, unless behavior also conflicts with another rule (Read our rules here: Rules) such as breaking consent, or not following the rules around the flagging roles for verbal play or tasks! But these are things that we strongly encourage and you may find that us or other members of our community nudge you to consider to help make this the fun, kinky space that we all want it to be!
- Click profiles to read kinks/limits if you’re engaging in kink or sexual verbal/text play with someone! We have kink and limit roles you can get in #roles . These can help you share about interests and limits. If you’re engaging in verbal or text play, go ahead and click a user’s profile pic and give their roles a read! It’s respectful to ensure you respect limits, and if you learn a little about their kinks and interests you’ll probably get their attention even better.
- Read people’s introductions if you’re looking to play, and write your own in introduce-yourself! Similar to the above, introductions may have things that the kink and limit roles don’t. Give it a read, especially if you want to give someone a task or want to DM them to talk about playing.
- We have “stoplight system” emotes
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. Feel welcome to use them to react to messages/flirting/teasing/play if you want to communicate it’s okay, to check-in, or to stop, or use 🟢 🟡 🔴 like many people and servers do! If someone doesn’t stop when told, typing RED in caps will also trigger the server safeword bot and ping server staff. **It is strongly encourage to use these if you take either of the Flagging roles over in #roles
- Aftercare is important especially if you play with someone in a voice chat or give them intense tasks. Ideally, ask about aftercare needs before you play with someone, be that in private or on the server. It can be good to let people you play with know they can DM you for aftercare needs, too! We have dedicated voice channels for aftercare, which you can use for aftercare with your partner or if you need support! We also have aftercare pings in #roles. To copy from there–Aftercare Pings: Allow being pinged if someone needs additional support after a scene in the aftercare/support VCs. When pinged, ask if you may join by replying to the person that pinged. Do not join aftercare/support VCs uninvited.
- Be respectful in NSFW-Media and when posting ads! On many discord servers, it’s seen as a little rude to immediately post your own lewd picture of yourself in a channel after someone else does. Depending on how active it is that day, please consider waiting 5-10 minutes after someone else posts a nude or video if you had one that you wanted to post in that channel, too! This is also polite with ads in looking-for-dom / looking-for-sub.
- De-escalate conflict: Any time there is sexual play and relationships happening in an online space, there is potential for conflict and “drama.” Our server seeks to have a culture of conflict de-escalation so that small personal differences don’t grow into big, messy blow-ups. Do your best to resolve your differences through civil communication with the other people involved. BDSM isn’t about never making mistakes, it’s about how you handle them!
- When engaging in play with one or more partners, please make sure everyone involved is on the same page. Problems can happen when, for example, one person considers a scene to be roleplay and another considers it a real dynamic with real-life implications.